Recently, my mother and sister went back to Taiwan to see family. In one recount of their travels, my sister mentioned that mom had tears in her eyes when she saw grandma. It’s been 10 years since mom’s been back. Damn, it’s really been a long time.
It’s unusual to see strong emotional reactions from my mom. Growing up, she’s been a rock. From moving us around to raising the three of us alone, to restarting her life several times, she’s always held the family together. Despite me being a huge PITA. Sometimes, I wonder if the thought crossed her mind that she’s had to be both the mom and the father in our family. I’d often wonder about how my mom handled all these obstacles so well.
No matter who you are, the modeling by our parents leaves strong impressions oh us when it comes to…long-term mate selection. That’s my awkward way of saying there are qualities my mom has that I’d look for in my wife some day. These qualities – emotional stability, confidence, and a strong sense of self – have especially grown in importance to me the past few years. Physical beauty is always welcomed – but if a girl can’t handle a few big hurdles – then it’s a no go.
In the same vein, seeing my mother’s struggles without a man in the household inspires me to be a better man, and a great father someday. I want to be a rock for my wife, family and friends so that no one feels alone when going through big problems.
Whenever I start stressing in life, I think of the life my mom has lead, and all the things she’s had to endure. Which has helped to enable freedom in my life. If I decided to do a 180, travel the world and learn to unicycle, I could do it. We’re far from rich, but even those off-the-wall options are in reach. My life is so fucking easy.
Thanks mom, I love you
I feel like these past few years she’s really hit her stride in terms of happiness and business. That makes me both incredibly happy and relieved.